embroidery april 2014
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Oh my, it’s an update! Spring is here and I figured it was time to update y’all. A lots going on in the world of Eli. Enjoy and thanks in advance for always making the time to watch.
I’m not sure if I would classify myself as having an eating disorder because I believe that I have a pretty healthy diet from day to day. However, I struggle everyday with constantly feeling insecure about my “broad shoulders” or “big arms” or lack of a “thigh gap.” I often feel like I’m…
Great piece on Asian beauty in America.
Anonymous said: Hey Eli, fellow qtpoc here and I was wondering if you could offer some advice. My girlfriend is white, and I often find it hard to engage in dialogue with her about whiteness and how that plays out in the dynamics of our relationship. She says a lot of triggering things, but I always brush them off instead of addressing it. Have you ever encountered this issue in your relationship? How should I go about handling this?
Hi fellow QTPOC!
Fortunately, I haven’t experienced triggering moments with my girlfriend. I have had past partners say some triggering things. At the time, I didn’t have the words to say how I felt, nor do I think I was aware of how I truly felt about my Chinese American identity at the time.
If now, presented with the issue, I would definitely be open and honest about how she made me feel about what she said. I definitely suggest this approach with your girlfriend. Our feelings are very valid, and she needs to know how you feel about certain things.
Issues about race are super touchy and definitely hard to talk about. I also hate confrontation! With that being said, if you want the relationship to work, you’ll definitely have to talk it out.
I hope this helps. I am more than willing to talk about this more with you!
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